Nurturing a Positive Self-Esteem in Children

Why is this so important?

Before we start talking about nurturing self-esteem in children, it’s important to understand what is self-esteem.

  • Self-Esteem is how individuals think and feel about themselves.
  • It is how much they like themselves.
  • It is about their overall judgement about themselves.
  • It is about how they perceive the world around them.

Children begin developing their self-esteem from a very early age. A child’s self-esteem comes from interactions and relationships that exist between the child and those who play a significant role in the child’s life.

Why is Self-esteem Important?

Your child’s judgement of herself will help to determine the kinds of friends she will choose, how she will get along with others, how productive she will be with her time and life, and even the kind of person she will marry. Your child’s self-esteem will affect her stability, her creativity, integrity and even whether she will become a leader or a follower. A child’s feelings about themselves will form the core of their personality and determine how they make use of their talents, aptitudes/abilities. “Self-esteem is the mainspring that slates every child for success or failure as a human being.” (Briggs, 1975)

A healthy self-esteem means that a person is confident in their self-value and feel that they are worthy of happiness. An individual with a good self-esteem feels good about themselves and the world around them. They are motivated and inspired to do good.

Self-esteem is the building block to becoming an independent effective thinker that has the confidence and ability to set and achieve goals. It is also the feeling that they are deserving of achieving their goals and of being successful and happy.

Today, self-esteem has become an important mental health issue. There are so many societal problems in this world. The more people with good self-esteem means there are more people in this world that are motivated and inspired to do good and to help resolve society’s problems. This is also of significant economic importance. If children are our future, then having more children feel good about themselves and utilize and manifest more of their talents and abilities means a much better world for all of us! (N. Branden, 1986)

In our world, we have children that are under-utilizing or not developing their abilities because they have a self-image that is limiting. In our world, we have children who suffer from a wide range of social and emotional issues related to poor self-esteem. In our world, there are children and adults that do not develop their abilities and talents because they do not believe in themselves.

We as parents need to help our children develop their individual talents and abilities and help them to see that they are loveable, capable and worthwhile and that they have purpose in their life. Parents need to show their children that life is for living, growing, and being all that they can be. Most of all, life is about developing one’s self and being happy.

Children with a healthy self-esteem have a significant advantage or a “leg-up” over their peers who have negative concepts of themselves. Healthy self-esteem highly correlates with rationality, realism, intuitiveness, creativity, independence, flexibility, ability to manage change, willingness to admit and correct mistakes, benevolence, and cooperativeness. (Branden, 1986)

The goal of Grandpa Steve’s Kids is to support parents, grandparents, teachers, and caregivers in nurturing positive self-esteem in children. Forthcoming articles will provide more specific information and ideas to help foster positive self-esteem in children, and from the song, “Keep Love In Your Heart!”